So I am sitting here with Letisha, my maid of honor! We were looking at bridesmaids dresses and color options.
Colors: Smoky Gray & Bamboo Green
I'd like the bridesmaids' dresses to be knee/tea length.. bamboo green .. fitted and rather plain but with an opening in the front toward the side.. with perhaps chiffon material flowing out.. easier to draw than to explain lol.
The challenge is finding a dress design that would work well with all of my bm's shapes.
Rolanda and I have decided to have the wedding at Elkins Estate on Saturday August 27th. I will sign and send in the contract with a deposit to hold the date this week.. After this, I will book Nasilele, the photographer. So excited!
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Remembering Mom on my Wedding Day
I want a special way to do this on my day.. I will compile some ideas:
Dear Lord please clear a spot for her
She should have the perfect view.
Her daughter is a Bride today,
and I am counting on you.
Let me feel her presence;
as I journey down the aisle.
But let me notice her absence;
if only for a while.
Let me stop to think of her;
As I am given away.
And know that if she could;
She would be here with me today.
Dear Lord please clear a spot for her;
She should have the perfect view.
And if she should get sad today;
Dear Lord I count on you.
I'm not sure if I fully like this poem/prayer..
Here are some other ideas:
we have a "we remember" page in our program and will put family photographs on a cocktail table with candles.
Or a chair decorated in my mother's honor
Dear Lord please clear a spot for her
She should have the perfect view.
Her daughter is a Bride today,
and I am counting on you.
Let me feel her presence;
as I journey down the aisle.
But let me notice her absence;
if only for a while.
Let me stop to think of her;
As I am given away.
And know that if she could;
She would be here with me today.
Dear Lord please clear a spot for her;
She should have the perfect view.
And if she should get sad today;
Dear Lord I count on you.
I'm not sure if I fully like this poem/prayer..
Here are some other ideas:
we have a "we remember" page in our program and will put family photographs on a cocktail table with candles.
Or a chair decorated in my mother's honor
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
A Better Day
there is a light at the end of the tunnel~
we were in a wedding planning war for a while. my fiance wanted a very low budget wedding with luxurious details.. i was having trouble accommodating that, being the primary planner.
it was stressful. we were like a deadlocked jury! we took a vacation to mexico for the past five days for her birthday. the trip worked wonders for our wedding planning war. a white flag was thrown on both sides.. from the looks of it. there will be a 2011 wedding :-) (for a second i was proposing that we push it to 2012 to save for a longer time). We will have it at the estate and opt for a cocktail reception to save on costs. heavy appetizers instead of a sit-down dinner.
I plan to sign the contract between today and tomorrow, just want to get an idea of how much the catering will cost.
I am so relieved :) Plus I got the place that I originally wanted. I hope it works out to be a beautiful evening!!
Our date would be August 27th.
we were in a wedding planning war for a while. my fiance wanted a very low budget wedding with luxurious details.. i was having trouble accommodating that, being the primary planner.
it was stressful. we were like a deadlocked jury! we took a vacation to mexico for the past five days for her birthday. the trip worked wonders for our wedding planning war. a white flag was thrown on both sides.. from the looks of it. there will be a 2011 wedding :-) (for a second i was proposing that we push it to 2012 to save for a longer time). We will have it at the estate and opt for a cocktail reception to save on costs. heavy appetizers instead of a sit-down dinner.
I plan to sign the contract between today and tomorrow, just want to get an idea of how much the catering will cost.
I am so relieved :) Plus I got the place that I originally wanted. I hope it works out to be a beautiful evening!!
Our date would be August 27th.
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Struggling to Decide..
As of now we are still struggling to decide on our wedding location. I really really like Elkins Estate, however it will come out to be quite expensive, mainly because they charge just to rent the location. They have four exclusive caters that we would choose from and I am currently collecting their pricing now.
The other option that we are considering is a hotel with an elegant ballroom. We have looked at a couple so far.. one was not fancy enough. The other was wonderful but had a high minimum food and drink for Saturday night of $35k which is way more than Elkins at the end of the day.
Deborah mentioned the Taj Mahal in Atlantic City has a deal for $125 per guest... I like the idea in theory but dont exactly want to get married in Atlantic City. It makes me think of Vegas and we've said in the past that we wouldn't want to do that. But I like the idea of it coming out cheaper and it probably has the elegant ballroom.
Deborah and I are going to see a couple more downtown hotels and then Elkins Estate next Tuesday... so I will stretch my final decision making date to next Tuesday. Elkins has sent us a contract already... I will keep in touch with the representative (Lindsay) and let her know we are definitely still interested.
I am to the point with Rolanda that I dont feel like discussing any wedding plans anymore. Its just difficult to do that when we are supposed to be saving together in a joint account, which she does not deposit her half on time. I get frustrated with her because I shouldn't have to pull her teeth to do simple things. We also cannot decide on a budget together. I've asked her at least 10 times now (no exaggeration) how much is she able to save per month toward the wedding, and have not gotten a straight answer YET :-( This causes concern for me. Lately it feels like I'm dragging her through the wedding planning. I dont want to have to do that.. I'd prefer participation at least with depositing the money so that we can pay for things in a uniform, less complicated form. I am currently depositing 250 per check towards the wedding and feel we should look at our own personal budgets to see if we can deposit more for the next year. She still wont give me an answer.
when Rolanda was pushing me to find a way to pay $550 a month toward my student loans instead of the $300 that I was already struggling to pay.. I did.. so that I could eventually get a lower pay rate anyhow. and it worked.
I've already suggested twice that we get pre-marital counselling. Rolanda agreed to find a person to do it and that was months ago.. So I will take on the task as soon as I get time. When all is said and done, besides her vows is there anything this girl is willing to do?
I am the only one who seems to compromise around here.. but if the other options that we (as in Deborah and I) view on Tuesday do not pan out.. I will be signing the contract with Elkins and proceeding forward :-)
My maid of honor (Tisha) and Deborah have truly helped me keep my sanity throughout all of this bull. It just feels good to talk to someone about the wedding that is genuinely interested and not avoiding the conversation. I'm hoping the rest of the planning is a wee bit more fun!
The other option that we are considering is a hotel with an elegant ballroom. We have looked at a couple so far.. one was not fancy enough. The other was wonderful but had a high minimum food and drink for Saturday night of $35k which is way more than Elkins at the end of the day.
Deborah mentioned the Taj Mahal in Atlantic City has a deal for $125 per guest... I like the idea in theory but dont exactly want to get married in Atlantic City. It makes me think of Vegas and we've said in the past that we wouldn't want to do that. But I like the idea of it coming out cheaper and it probably has the elegant ballroom.
Deborah and I are going to see a couple more downtown hotels and then Elkins Estate next Tuesday... so I will stretch my final decision making date to next Tuesday. Elkins has sent us a contract already... I will keep in touch with the representative (Lindsay) and let her know we are definitely still interested.
I am to the point with Rolanda that I dont feel like discussing any wedding plans anymore. Its just difficult to do that when we are supposed to be saving together in a joint account, which she does not deposit her half on time. I get frustrated with her because I shouldn't have to pull her teeth to do simple things. We also cannot decide on a budget together. I've asked her at least 10 times now (no exaggeration) how much is she able to save per month toward the wedding, and have not gotten a straight answer YET :-( This causes concern for me. Lately it feels like I'm dragging her through the wedding planning. I dont want to have to do that.. I'd prefer participation at least with depositing the money so that we can pay for things in a uniform, less complicated form. I am currently depositing 250 per check towards the wedding and feel we should look at our own personal budgets to see if we can deposit more for the next year. She still wont give me an answer.
when Rolanda was pushing me to find a way to pay $550 a month toward my student loans instead of the $300 that I was already struggling to pay.. I did.. so that I could eventually get a lower pay rate anyhow. and it worked.
I've already suggested twice that we get pre-marital counselling. Rolanda agreed to find a person to do it and that was months ago.. So I will take on the task as soon as I get time. When all is said and done, besides her vows is there anything this girl is willing to do?
I am the only one who seems to compromise around here.. but if the other options that we (as in Deborah and I) view on Tuesday do not pan out.. I will be signing the contract with Elkins and proceeding forward :-)
My maid of honor (Tisha) and Deborah have truly helped me keep my sanity throughout all of this bull. It just feels good to talk to someone about the wedding that is genuinely interested and not avoiding the conversation. I'm hoping the rest of the planning is a wee bit more fun!
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
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